Reflections
Thoughts on healing, growth, and A Course in Miracles.
It's been four years...
As it comes up to four years since I moved to Portugal with one suitcase (and Tilly, six months later), I have been reminded of a vision board I made,…
I don't want this
Explore why we resist change even when we're unhappy. ACIM insights and therapy wisdom on working with the scared parts that keep us stuck.
Introducing the Journal app
I’ve journalled daily for years – longer form as well as a two-minute practice that helps me have better, more intentional days. Now I've built an app.
I am under no laws but God's
Explore ACIM's teaching "I am under no laws but God's" and how questioning limiting beliefs can create more peace and agency in daily life.
Trust and curiosity
What A Course in Miracles teaches about trust when the world feels uncertain. Reflections on miracles, resilience and staying open to seeing things differently.
The past is gone
Why we cling to grievances and how ACIM forgiveness can free us. A therapist's perspective on letting go of the past, with a practical forgiveness exercise.
There are no private thoughts
How hidden thoughts create shame and disconnection. Exploring A Course in Miracles through a therapeutic lens, with a practical exercise for bringing thoughts to light.
When times feel hard
I haven’t posted anything for a while. There's a lot of rubbish stuff going on in the world (yes that's a judgement). There's a lot of wonderful stuff…
An invitation to compassion
A little invitation to self-compassion: It's OK if your trauma is still showing up. Maybe it has a message for you. Maybe your body freezing, or your…
Making changes and still feeling triggered...
https://youtu.be/_BTpUzoycqI Sometimes it's easier to explain something verbally instead of writing it down, but I've also added a transcript below in…
The path to peace
Just a little note from me: If you don't like what you're experiencing, be open to a different perception of it. Don't worry about what that alternative…
In one year...
Today marks the end of a pretty big year for me. I officially graduated from my year-long Ministerial Devotional Training Programme based on A Course in…
What is the answer?
I was reminded of something in my meditation today, and thought it might be helpful for someone else too. I've often shared how life is a reflection of…
Is it possible to heal?
It is possible to heal. I get asked this quite a lot when having consultation calls with clients. Can you help me? Is it possible to not be like this?…
You cannot be everything to everyone
You can only do the best you can do. Just a little reminder as everyone gets a little end-of-year / festive season worn out / over excited.... If…
The past is over
The second part of the workbook of A Course In Miracles groups the lessons together in blocks of ten which an over-arching theme for each block. The…
Love is not earned
Love is not earned. It is not something you 'deserve' if you meet certain conditions set down by others or society. Conditional love is an oxymoron. If…
Shame and Transparency
There's a concept in A Course in Miracles called 'no private thoughts'. As it suggests, it speaks to the idea that instead of trying to hold thoughts in…
What I'm learning about love
What I'm learning about love... We think that if we love too much, we will somehow run out. We've all had the experience of loving someone or something so…
Teach only love
I had this quote printed and framed to hang in my kitchen. It means I get to read it many times a day. I'm also getting plenty of opportunities to learn…
Being supportive
I often talk to clients about the difference between enabling and supporting loved ones. I've had to learn this lesson myself, many times. We cannot take…
It takes a village
I've counselled enough immigrant parents over the years to have learned that the phrase 'it takes a village' could not be more accurate. I moved to…
What's its purpose?
I move house in a week's time. The process so far has been really easy and I've felt totally humbled and grateful to be able to move somewhere so…
Have some integrity
I posted a story the other day that said something like 'HAVE SOME FU*KING INTEGRITY'. I don't know how many people clicked the post to read the second…
Boundaries and A Course in Miracles
When we put boundaries in place we're not saying 'I reject you' but instead 'I reject this version of you which you are currently choosing because I know…
Reflections
I currently have an incredible teacher in my life who seems to bring me a lot of pain. As weird as this may sound, and seemingly outside of my control, I…
Stop forcing what isn't flowing
This goes against what many motivational speakers will tell you, but from what I've seen (and experienced personally) the happiest people are those that…
Is your pain great enough?
Your feelings are valid. There will always be people going through seemingly 'worse' situations than you. Their experiences are valid too. Feelings are…
Triggered
I had an eating disorder in my early twenties which, although awful, I was able to recover from. Every now and again, with certain triggers, I get the…
Surviving and thriving
Affirmations don't work. If you have any kind of belief that conflicts with whatever you're trying to tell yourself in any way, your RAS (reticular…
On hopelessness and surrendering
A friend asked me the other day if I had ever felt overwhelmed when meeting a client for the first time and hearing their 'story' or the reasons why they…
When nothing makes sense
Our brains like to make sense of things. It's why as children, if we experience abandonment or trauma, we often internalise it as being our fault, because…
Something on loss
Something on loss: When we lose someone, or perhaps even a beloved pet, there is often an urge to 'fill the hole' left with another person, a new…
Healing miracles
There's a couple of miraculous moments that happen in a healing process, when you know all the tears, all the frustration, blame, guilt and shame, and all…
Alone
"She was so painfully aware that she was a peripheral in almost everyone's lives and never front and centre. If she disappeared, there were a couple of…
The answer
Something that I've found helpful to work with the last week or so.... A Course in Miracles is annoyingly clear when it comes to how to respond to others.…
Forgiveness Workshops
As you may know, I've spent the last four months in a therapeutic group facilitation training course. As I reach the end of that training next month, I am…
Friendship hack
Friendship hack: I wanted to share something I've done for years, but always seems to surprise people. It's a really small and easy thing to do, but seems…
Bringing peace
This morning one of the girls who works at the cafe I go to every morning, who's only 17, stopped to tell me that whenever I'm in the cafe, she always…
Letting go and finding peace
What if we didn't judge? What if we gave up trying to understand or figure out or make sense of stuff? What if we let go of our need to be right, in…
The miracle
I've been that person. The one stood in line at the grocery store, or waiting to pay for their coffee, fighting back tears that for one inexplicable…
I do not know what anything is for
⁷I do not know what anything, including this, means. ⁸And so I do not know how to respond to it. ⁹And I will not use my own past learning as the light to…
Leaning into rest
Today is my first day back seeing clients after a week's break. It's also a full moon for those who are interested. I aim to take one week off every three…
Closed, not locked
Closing a door so you can heal or honour yourself does not mean it has to stay closed forever. I've been reflecting a lot on boundaries this week, and how…
Trying to be a good person
'Trying' to be a good person misses one key fact: there are no good or bad people, just people acting out of integrity with themselves and out of fear. It…
Relationships
I'm on the first weekend of a training for me to learn how to facilitate therapeutic groups. Understandably a big part of this training is around group…
What would love do?
A Course in Miracles teaches us that the world we see is a reflection of our own inner state. It also teaches that giving and receiving are the same…
Make healing easier
Perhaps there's an argument that putting a band aid (plaster for the Brits amongst us) on a wound won't fix anything. It will simply give the wearer the…
Boundaries and Surrender
Boundaries, surrender, flow and autism is an interesting mix. As someone who really advocates for strong boundaries, I also understand that they only work…
Acceptance vs Understanding
New clients often tell me that they know logically what's happened or why, and so they can't understand why they still feel or behave in a certain way.…
Surrender
I'm currently working with a dog trainer for my dog Tilly. Moving to another country and culture having lived a pretty quiet life in rural Wales is an…
Inconsistency
There's a negative connotation that is associated with inconsistency. We seem to think that we have to show up in whatever way consistently in order to do…
Why don't I feel good enough?
(one possible reason) If we grew up in a household with tension, but perhaps we didn't understand why, our child brains went looking for an answer as to…
Peace
Peace is not something we go find outside of ourselves. That's always annoyed me a bit. Peace seems very illusive sometimes. We want it, but we also don't…
Integrity
I've been thinking a lot about integrity recently. It's a word that has taken on a strong meaning for me in recent years. To be in integrity with yourself…
Being vs Doing
Some of us are programmed to Do. We find our safety, our comfort and our purpose in our output and in our doing. We measure our success by our progress…
There's a good chance I'm autistic
There's a good chance I'm autistic. As a therapist, you might assume I'd have figured this important fact out a little earlier than the 38 years I've been…
Making changes
For those in the 'I KNOW I'm doing it, but I still do it!' frustrating stage of changing a habit or pattern of behaviour.... Think of your change in terms…
Ho'oponopono
Ho'oponopono is an Hawaiian healing practice, based on the principle that we are 100% responsible for everything that appears in our lives. This doesn't…
Boundaries 101
Too many people try to create and stick to boundaries to stop themselves saying yes when they mean no, no when they mean yes and generally getting walked…
Right or happy?
Would you rather be happy, or right? Maybe you can be both, but if you're defending your position or arguing with someone, you're giving up your happiness…
You get to leave
This may sound obvious, but unless you are actually imprisoned (and I appreciate that is a very real situation for many right now) you get to leave a…
Self-sabotage
She realised that she couldn't move forward whilst simultaneously rejecting or abandoning parts of herself. She couldn't leave part of herself behind on…
Why I have a therapist
I've been working with my current therapist for the last eight years. For the first few years I saw her weekly, and now it's every other week. Yes, like…
Shining bright
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most…
What is it for?
She asked, 'Why did this happen?!' 'What is this for?!!!'. Frustrated with what was happening, not understanding how it could possibly be for anything…
Changes
Change requires energy. How we may judge it is irrelevant - all change requires extra energy. Change of routine, change of people, change of home or even…
Reticular Activating System
What is the Reticular Activating System? A bundle of nerves in your brain which controls the filtration of external stimuli and can influence your…
High standards
One of the biggest things I've committed to and have been navigating this last year or so is holding myself to a higher standard and to be the best…
Choosing peace
Whenever you feel activated, triggered, stressed or anxious, go instead and ask yourself, what feels most peaceful for me right now? Sounds simple, but if…
Act accordingly
If you can imagine what you want and how you want to feel, you can also pay attention to the type of person you would need to experience that reality. How…
Our egos
Our egos are programmed to find something wrong. Whether it be the body part we don't love when we're on the beach, the place we live, how appreciated we…
Questions to ask yourself
Some important questions to continually reflect on: Can you be kind: to yourself, and others? Can you suspend your judgement: of yourself and others? Can…
You're not who you will be
You will not be who you are now a year from now. You will not be who you are now tomorrow. We forget this. We make plans. We worry. We want to know what…
Bereavement and beliefs
Whilst I was training, I worked at a bereavement centre, counselling clients who had lost someone, often in traumatic circumstances, sometimes not. I have…
Perpetuating the cycle
Sometimes our self-sabotaging relational patterns show up in the form of beautiful people - the perfect mixture of growth and comfort, all in one nicely…
Making friends
Making friends as an adult can be really hard. I'm also not about to share with you my 3 best tips to help you. I don't have them, and I don't think it's…
Alignment
It took her a while, and she still slipped every now and then, but she had learned to trust her inner knowing, more than any outer wisdom she accumulated…
I want it another way
The more you force, the more you fight with what is, the less energy you have to understand it, learn from it and let it be useful to you. When you're…
You are enough
I had a moment of 'not good enough' today. That moment when I am reminded that my social media game is definitely towards the 'bad' end of the scale, that…
Connection
I am blessed to have deep conversations and connection with most people I meet and spend some time with. I don't know if it's an occupational hazard, or I…
Manifestation
A good reminder for today - not to induce a fear of manifesting something we don't want, but more to consciously direct our attention to that which we…
Choosing peace
There is only one way to feel peaceful and happy, and that is to let go of any thought that isn't peaceful or happy. Sounds obvious, but how often do you…
Asking for help
We work on our own stuff so much of the time and know that we need to focus on getting ourselves into a good place before trying to fix others, but that…
Peace
Last week I spent pretty much any time I wasn't with clients, in bed resting. I guess a mild case of covid enforced a bit of a time out, but I missed my…
Does it make me kind?
Study all the texts, philosophers and psychologists you like, but if that study doesn't turn into kinder, more loving and more peaceful thoughts and…
Judgement
Today I will judge nothing that occurs. 1. I will be honest with myself today. ²I will not think that I already know what must remain beyond my present…
Freedom
She knew that there was a balance to be found between the familiarity of routine and comfort: the safety of her own boundaries, and the freedom that she…
A couple of reframes...
A couple of reframes to try today if you're feeling stuck: I choose instead of I have to (when we recognise that we always have a choice, even if there…
Understanding your Inner Critic
She was sure at one stage, the voice in her head wasn't as mean as it became. She wasn't sure what had happened that caused it to shout so loudly, every…
Compassionate accountability
I hate when people ask me how long I've been doing yoga, because when I say nearly 20 years, I invariably get something like, 'Wow, you must be really…
Can I?
Maybe the old you couldn't do it. Maybe this you, the new you, who's learned more, is still unproven in her abilities. The only way to get proof, is to do…
Unavailable
It's OK to no longer be available for things, people, behaviours or environments that don't feel respectful, kind, or light you up. You don't even have to…
Not your fault
You are not responsible for how people receive you. And. You are responsible for your intention and energy you project towards others. There is a balance…
The plan
Sometimes, life does not show up according to the timeline we set for it. Sometimes life does entirely it's own thing and we're left thinking, 'Wtf?!'. In…
A little update
Just a little update from me... I'm in Portugal for a little while, exploring beaches, surfing, making new friends and getting some sun on my face. I'm…
Choices
We make thousands of choices every day. Mostly without thinking. Our brains learn patterns and choose what's best for us based on our beliefs and past…
Surfing
Today I quit surfing. I first really learned to surf in Sri Lanka a few years ago, and enjoyed it, but since then it's definitely become something I've…
Stop imagining
Stop imagining what isn't there. If you're thinking more than one step ahead, stop. Controversial advice I know. Probably not as helpful if you're flying…
Judgement
Sometimes forgiveness comes really easily to me, othertimes it requires consistent effort - to catch the judgemental thoughts, the times I'm attacking…
Thought Timeline
Ever thought, 'OK - I've finally learned the lesson. I'm not going to let that happen again.' Only to have the same trigger or experience show up again?…
The judger always feeled judged
There's a thinking in ACIM that if we attack or judge another, in any way, we essentially end up attacking ourselves, and feeling whatever we projected…
I am not my thoughts
Not only am I not my thoughts, I am not my thought system. Funny how you can know something, and hear the saying a million times and then somehow, it…
Self-regulation
Maybe people think that they require discipline in order to thrive. They think that if they weren't harsh and strict with themselves, they would fall off…
Soul or ego?
Are you seeing the soul, or the ego? Whenever we feel judged by someone, it's either a mirror for us, or fear coming up for them. I realised today that…
Being supported
A little reframe, if you notice you are stuck in feelings or fears of lack or scarcity: "I am always supported." This phrase has helped me through many a…
To give and receive
I feel like I don't talk about A Course in Miracles enough for the amount it influences my life and my work, as some find it triggering, despite it's…
Miracles
I've been watching this little bubble emerge on my driveway the last week or so. Finally, I saw an actual living plant sprout up through the tarmac. Many…
Trauma Response
When we experience trauma, our survival instincts kick in. Sometimes we replay the events over and over, trying to work out exactly what happened, why and…
Mirrors
Your reaction to peoples' behaviour is a mirror into your soul. Your triggers are signposts towards unhealed parts of yourself - the parts you often deny;…
Trust
I've been playing around a lot with the idea of trust recently and this is where I've ended up. I am often asked, how do I learn to trust? I don't know if…
Feelings
If you think you need to change your feelings depending on whether on not someone can handle them, please stop. Your feelings are your feelings. They are…
Blocking happiness
I noticed last week that I have a tendency sometimes to limit my joy. Sometimes things are going great and I get a little niggle, a small voice that…
Your 'perfect', is perfect
Every now and again I question if I'm doing 'enough' in the world; if I'm making enough 'waves' or big choices. There are people I've counselled and…
Choices
We have the greatest gift in that we get to choose, in each moment, to live in the past, or the present. We get to choose to bring our memories, our…
Planning
Life doesn't always go to plan. Taking aligned action is always far more powerful than trying to force a situation from a place of fear. If things haven't…
I rule my mind
"I rule my mind, which I alone must rule." ~A Course in Miracles, Lesson 236 We often think we are not in control of our thoughts and feelings. I get it.…
Authenticity
Deep down, all anyone really wants is our honesty and authenticity. When we honour and respect someone enough to be real with them, we give them a gift,…
You are loved
I want you to know that you are loved. However broken you may feel, however hurt you have been, know that it is NOT you. You are on a journey and…
You're allowed to get it wrong
None of these things make you bad, stupid or a terrible person. Behaviours may shape how we are perceived, but we get to change that by learning how to…
Highest and best
What's highest and best for me, is highest and best for all, because we are all one. If you ever struggle with people pleasing, or the idea that if you do…
Be who you were meant to be, now
The accomplishment of the goal does not exist in the future. It exists right now, in the small actions you take in alignment with the person you want to…
Control
We cannot control others. We can never control others. Trying to, or trying to tailor our actions in order to elicit a particular response from someone…
Keep it simple
Life is simpler than we make it. It is not about decisions, what you have, what you need, where you need to be, what you need to do. It is about being…
Choose yourself
She continued the practice of choosing herself, and realised something interesting in the process. When she really, truly, chose herself; when she…
Choosing pain
Sometimes we choose to stay in our pain. That's OK. Sometimes, there's a wounded part within us that believes we deserve to feel bad, or that continuing…
Triggers
My triggers are not real. This is something my teacher said on her podcast a few weeks ago, and I find myself circling back to it regularly. At first I…
Use your words
What you think, and more importantly, feel, is what you will attract into your life. Become very aware of what you say today, are all your words a…
Ripples
I want you to know that you are making waves in this world. It might seem fruitless sometimes but every step you take towards joy, towards love and…
Listening
You cannot 'fix' anything (internally or externally) without understanding what's going on. Listening, to ourselves and others, requires practice but…
Surrender
When there is conflict within us, when we are holding onto a belief about something, or someone, or ourselves - when all the evidence points to the…
Willpower, or not
I realised the other day after explaining how I work with so called 'bad' habits, behaviours and thought patterns in a much more compassionate way than…
An alternative to beating yourself up
We have been taught to believe that being hard on ourselves, pushing ourselves and beating ourselves up is the way to reach our potential: a way to find…
Unconditional
I don't really keep plants. I tend to 'over love' them and kill them. Accidentally of course, but they fair better when I purposefully ignore them. I was…
Smaller
I live in a smaller world than I did. My world full of travel and culture and freedom has shrunk to the same four walls and routine. I'm one of the lucky…
Lessons in love
I had a spiritual counselling session yesterday. Sometimes you just need a little extra self care. She asked me, if you were to make a prayer from this…
Keeping score
What if you didn't have to keep score? If you've ever sat and thought, 'I'm not doing it anymore. I'm not going to keep giving and giving and trying and…
How can I offer you peace?
How can I offer you peace? I've been revisiting healed relationships from A Course in Miracles recently and one of the commentaries I read suggested that…
Find your heart
Find your heart. Keep it always in your sight. Dig into the part of you that gives you meaning. Find it and love it. Remind yourself everyday of your…
Letting go
Want to know what happens when you let those painful emotions out? What happens when you give in to the fight within yourself to keep them under wraps and…
And
Life is not all or nothing. It is not black and white. It is not either or. Neither are people. Neither am I. Neither are you. Life is a consequence of…
Getting through
Just wanted to acknowledge all the people who are 'getting through' life right now. The people who's plans have disappeared, who are grieving, who are…
Soul or ego?
Are you seeing the soul, or the ego? Whenever we feel judged by someone, it's either a mirror for us, or fear coming up for them. I realised today that…
How are you?
Are you OK? How are you really? I've had more conversations and 'I'm concerned about ' with people I care about this week than I have in a long time. I'm…
Om Gam Ganapataye Namaha
Om Gam Ganapataye Namaha - Mantra for Ganesh, the Remover of Obstacles. Usage: when you're ready to let go of anything that might be holding you back and…
What's your why?
What's your why? Why do you get up in the morning? Why do you do your work / art? Why are you kind to one person, one day, and unkind another? Why are you…
The way to become...
Learn to love who you are, so you can be who you want to be. . . . There are still some low cost coaching opportunities up for grabs - if you're…
The dreamer of the dream
She listened to the wind outside her window, but no longer felt scared. The wind could no more hurt her than the rest of her dream. It could bang at the…
Inner work
Thank you @angelo_saltamonte for our conversations - you always inspire me to think more deeply and learn more
Love's deeper commitment
And nobody has to walk with you. Ever. At some point, only Truth will satisfy. A living Truth, renewing itself each and every moment, the wild Truth of…
Slow
Sometimes the quiet is the best place to be. I've been so busy recently trying to be efficient. I've taken to listening to podcasts on my walks. They're…
Be yourself
You're not too much. Just be yourself. Flowers don't care how much they are. They bloom so hard their beauty succumbs to the weight and their stalks wilt,…
Victimhood
She realised that what she desired, what she had felt was missing these last few weeks, was control. She had chosen to dis-empower herself, to choose the…
Alignment
When we say one thing, and do another, it leaves room for interpretation. It leaves room for confusion. It leaves room for fear, and unhappiness. When we…
The storm
I am the centre of my storm. Whatever I feel is on me. I get to choose to be at the eye of the storm, or thrown around on the outside of it. I can sit in…
Forgiveness in ACIM
The clearest explanation of the problem with forgiveness - from my ACIM teacher @jenniferhelenhadley : Who taught you how to forgive? What did they teach…
Your heart
Your heart does not care what recognition you get for your helping. It doesn't care what you look like when you do it, how much credibility you have or…
Synchronicity
I'm feeling incredibly grateful today, not just because I'm being given more and more evidence that if I just surrender, get out of my own way and stop…
I will know
I will know the truth when my only motivation is to be truly helpful. I will know that I am fully supported when I turn my focus from my outside…
Support
As she turned her attention away from what she needed to do to get what she thought she wanted, and instead directed her focus on to the individual small…
*LOW COST COACHING OPPORTUNITY*
*LOW COST COACHING OPPORTUNITY* Some of you may know that I am in the process of gaining the ICF credential for my coaching work. This is no mean feat and…
Grey
There is grey here. There are so many unknowns and my brain just wants to be pointed in a direction with a clear goal and told to go. Run with it. Go…
I am fully supported
I am fully supported. I lived in fear for most of my life. I had developed such a sense of lack in my life that even though I always had clean clothes and…
Saying the wrong thing
Don't be afraid to say the wrong thing. Sometimes we can let fear dictate our voices. We close down our thinking and our feeling because, ultimately, we…
Distance
Can physical distance bring you closer? Yes. To yourself? Yes. To others? Yes. To the Truth? Yes. There is no distance between the Truth and Love
I don't know the answers
I wish I had more to offer you at this time. I wish I had the answers or the tools or the shortcuts to help us navigate the things we're all facing…
Immunity
On a purely physical level, fear creates stress. Stress creates inflammation. Inflammation weakens the immune system. On a spiritual level, ACIM teaches…
Scared
What if you weren't scared? All my problems, big or small, can always be boiled down to thinking with thoughts of lack, attack or judgement. They come…
Waiting
Sometimes she felt like she was waiting. Waiting for everything to fall into place, for the moment when all the boxes were ticked and she knew she was on…
The answer
You can stop searching for answers now. Just choose love. Every time
Struggle
Don't fight the struggle. If it feels stressful, or like you're battling with something that doesn't seem to want you to have what you want, stop. Wait.…
Beauty
Where do you see beauty today? We have a choice. What do we choose to see?
Accountability
I've worked with more than one client recently who realised that they were choosing to hold onto their own pain. They could see the light...just....but it…
The wrong path
Life is nothing but a series of choices. It doesn't matter what we choose, because we will always have chosen the best path for us, to give us the…
Darkness
Sometimes there isn't any light. She knows it's there. She knows that if she just choose to see it, she would, yet there's a stronger part of her that…
Relationship
Two quotes are really playing over and over in my head today. I'm not sure why, but I'll share them with you anyway, for whoever needs them... “I am not…
Humility
Last night in my coach training (which I'm currently taking between 10pm and 1am because of the time difference), we talked about being humble and curious…
Ritual
I love watching the Balinese Hindus place their puja in the mornings around their statues, homes and businesses - offering their gods gifts and welcoming…
Breathe
Breathe. Whatever is happening, however you feel, come back to your breath. I'm being reminded these last few days how powerful our breath is: how much it…
Choose again
What would life look like if we truly chose to bring full awareness to our thoughts, feelings, actions and beliefs in each moment? How many unconscious…
Patterns
She made a decision, a long time ago, not to settle. She had lost, felt left behind, and been hurt too many times. She knew that the only way to change…
Walls
Sometimes it's not about trying to take a bulldozer to the walls to break them down, it's about seeing the walls, and just sharing that with the other…
Contrast
Maybe it was possible to find peace without contrast. Maybe you found peace IN the contrast? Maybe, as she experienced the edges of her comfort zone, it…
What's best for you
It's not about what's best for the other person at the expense of yourself. If you think like that you'll miss the point. Do what's best for yourself -…
Self-care
Please stop thinking that by looking after yourself, you'll hurt others or make them suffer. What is best for you, can only ever be what is also best for…
The rescuer
She reached out her hand. Not sure if he would understand, not sure if she would be accepted, not sure if he knew what she wanted, but she offered it…
Play
Because it came down to this....where did she feel light? Where was the fun? What happened when she let go of her expectations and need to control, and…
Expectations
This is today's reality. I woke up this morning ready to have a super productive day after being sick for nearly a week. In the end, I drove to town for a…
Past vs Future
Your past made you who you are today, but it won't make you who you are tomorrow. Who you become tomorrow is defined by the choices you make today. Right…
Enlightenment
I don't believe in becoming 'enlightened'. I don't believe that one person is more 'woke' than another, or more conscious, or spiritually evolved or…
The best
Sometimes, it's just a case of recognising that there isn't anyone to blame. Everyone did their best. Sometimes the best doesn't seem good enough, but it…
Looking inside
If you didn't have anyone to go to, nowhere to run...if you only had yourself to look to for the answers to your problems, where would you start? We so…
Feeling safe
I so want this for you. I so very much want you to feel safe to be yourself, to bring all of you to the table, and, if not to feel accepted, to feel at…
It's OK
It's ok not to be ok. It's ok to cry one minute and feel happy the next. It's ok to get angry at the world, or grieve the losses you've experienced…
Choices
Sometimes she felt so guilty for feeling so overwhelmed because of the choices afforded to her. She could do anything, which she believed was the same for…
Defining yourself
Ever get that pull to get another qualification, get that job, buy that house or some other material thing you can use to identify yourself and your worth…
Brave, not perfect
It's about being brave, not about being perfect. There will be so many times where we reach, and fall short of where our egos, our family, our friends or…
A little update
I leave Portugal tomorrow after two months here. It's been....an experience. I've loved so much and also been so challenged by living with other people…
Struggle and success
Struggle is not synonymous with success. We are so conditioned to believe the narrative that in order to be successful we need to have fought and…
Presence
Today I took a full day off to go exploring parts of Portugal I hadn't seen, and be fully present to the experience. It's been an old habit that part of…
Perception
She didn't believe for a second that life was always going to be easy, but what she had realised, was that, through any pain, there were two…
The art of 'Shoulding' on yourself
I felt as though I *should* write today, then scolded myself for 'shoulding' on myself. So I just begun this whole pain cycle of having a belief…
Fitting in
She had spent so long trying to find her place, and figure out 'where' she fitted in, before she realised that there was no 'place' she fitted into. There…
Let me know you
This is the moment. Right now. After all the things, and before all the things. Now. Take me on a journey with you, just for a moment. Let me look into…
How to help
There was something, aside from the practical help people offered, that felt just as precious: the being there, the allowing of her, and all her feelings,…
Choosing better
Sometimes the pebbles feel like boulders, and the smallest splinters light a fire in you that transforms the smallest, most insignificant thing into a…
Stories
She looked back, and looked forward, and realised, once again, that she, and only she, created the narrative of her life. She could write herself as a…
Movement
Maybe she didn't have to label herself with an arbitary list of personality traits. Maybe she didn't have to figure out who she was with the rigidity of…
Boundaries
Perhaps, she realised, it wasn't about the boundaries that everyone kept going on about, it was about knowing within herself who she was and what she…
The gap
The source of any upset, discomfort or pain is the difference between the way we think something should be, and the way it is appearing to be. When we…
Choice
She had no tolerance for wasting time anymore: not time spent doing things she disliked, not time in places or with people who didn't inspire her or make…
I like that you talk
'I like that you talk'. So often I have been told that I talk too much, that I should stop, think before I speak, not say what's in my heart, hide away…
The work
It always surprised her, how many layers there were. It seemed like a never-ending journey, because it was, and she could understand why so many people…
Self-sabotage
She was so tired of her own mind creating problems. So tired of making meaning of things, and holding onto judgements so she could remain frustrated and…
Being yourself
She was not alone in her wandering. She wandered, sometimes with purpose, sometimes without, but no longer alone. She had found within herself an inner…
An ode to anxiety
For all those moving through feelings of anxiety, or those who have loved ones who are.... "And this is the place....the place I hate....where my throat…
Choose love
I will choose love. Over and over and over again. Even if it seems to hurt. Even if I don't understand why. Even if there are a million reasons not to. I…
Your word
What does your word really mean? Do you stand by your word? Is it your promise, your bond to follow through and commit, or is it just a fleeting moment of…
Positivity
Positivity is not an inherently good or bad thing. Please stop thinking that you can't acknowledge when you feel sad, or angry, or betrayed, or any other…
Too much
Following on from my last post, I got told today that I was too much, too intense and required too much effort to be friends with. I nearly gave the guy a…
Victimhood
Some words of wisdom I know are right, but am still learning to put into practice consistently: Don't stay stuck in your victimhood just because giving up…
Where we find love
And maybe it is in the space in between, in the distance we create between the prompt and the ego, where we find ourselves, and the love that we knew was…
Being seen
There is something sacred in being truly seen by another human soul. Having someone seemingly outside of you see your whole as so much more than the sum…
Questions for your soul
I'm going through an old notebook and found this (ignore the shocking handwriting - translation below!)....I wrote it on my first trip to Sri Lanka in…
Intention
It is not in the experience of the journey that life is created, but in the intention you set as you create it. Set your intention, and the way you…
Honesty
What does it look like, to be honest, to be truly in integrity with your heart, in that space where there is no discrepancy between your heart, thoughts,…
Do not underestimate me
One from the archives: . Do not underestimate me. I can move mountains with a flick of my tongue. I breathe fire and life into existence from the very…
Moments
So she held that moment, and looked for whatever was within it that would make her kinder and more loving, and took that with her as she moved forward…
Rest comes not from sleeping, but from waking
Rest comes not from sleeping, but from waking. ~A Course In Miracles Quite often, I've looked at this sea over the last few months and just started…
Giving and receiving
I've noticed myself being super impatient and irritable the last few days....then the sun came out and I remembered that I get to choose how I feel and…
A little update
A few things have happened the last few weeks (including discovering these filters). I had some moments doubting myself. I questioned if I was helping…
I am here to be truly helpful
I don't work for money anymore. That might sound stupid, given I charge my clients for counselling, but for the last few years I've consciously chosen to…
On forgiveness
One day, she thought, I will get tired of being angry, too tired to keep holding on to the need to be right, and I will let go. I will recognise that all…
Promises
What can we hope for, except truth? There is little chance of promises being kept, unless they are promises of change, for we can no more tell if we will…
We're all one
"If it's the highest and best for anyone, it's the highest and best for everyone, because we're all one." @jenniferhelenhadley with the great reminder to…
Love does not do
Love does not "do", it simply "is". . Love does not have to prove itself, nor behave a certain way to exist. It is our very essence. It is always kind,…
Worth loving
Thanks @alison.malee
My happy place
Maybe my happy place is here, and maybe it's a world within me, where I realise and truly believe that I am loved, and loveable, and loving: where I can…
On being...
Sometimes (always), it wasn't about wrong or right, and it wasn't about making something be true when maybe it wasn't, it was just about being:…
Stop looking back.
Stop looking back. Stop thinking about the past and using it to determine your future. Look forward. What do you want? Head in that direction
I may not be who you want me to be
I may not be who you want me to be, and I've definitely done the wrong things at the wrong time for the wrong reasons.
Forgiveness and healing
And so she wandered, though the space in her own mind, and realised, perhaps for the first time, that all the pain she'd suffered, seemingly at the hands…
What is meant for you
I slightly misquoted this (sorry!), but you get the point. Never abandon yourself under some illusion that you need something in your life that requires…
I don't care what you've done
Please go read this in it's entirety ↪ https://thoughtcatalog.com/janne-robinson/2018/12/i-dont-care-what-youve-done/
Who sees you?
@eleven.twenty.four 🙌💕🙌 Who are the people who really SEE you? . . . Who are the ones who refuse to believe the stories you tell yourself and consistently…
Trust
If I can trust myself, I can trust you, And know that it'll be ok, Even if it's not. Before you get vulnerable, ask yourself, can I share this with you,…
Love
There is love, Waiting for you, In the dark places of your heart, In the fear of the unknown, In the taking of risks Waiting for you, to choose it
Perfection
Even when stuff happens that I don't expect. Even when it hurts. Even when it feels impossible. The only thing we can ever do is come back to what feels…
Connection
Connection is two people, interlacing their freedom, and choosing to be present to each other in that moment. When that moment passes, we choose again.…
Humbled
No matter what our circumstances, I challenge you not to be so completely in awe of nature.
It's always something
It's always something. If you're feeling it. If it's happening. It's something.
Growth
And as she wandered through the archives of her old soul, she realised what she was, what she was capable of, and how whatever she had created for herself…
How does it feel?
Sometimes it's not about the things you did or didn't do, Its about how you felt when you chose. If it feels good, do it
The not-knowing
There is beauty and simplicity in the not-knowing: in the moments before the clarity comes and you can pause, suspended above the decision
Actions over words
I can talk a good talk, but if my actions aren't in integrity with what I'm saying, thinking and feeling, I have nothing, and people will feel that.
Which wolf will you feed?
Which wolf will you feed? Even through turbulent times, we must remain focused. We must remember why we do this, what we hope for, what we are grateful…
Remembering...
And just like that, she remembered who she was.
Start by making yourself happy
Take that anyway you want, but happiness can and will only ever be an inside job. If you're not happy, take responsibility and look at yourself and how…
Acceptance
Just because you care about people, doesn't mean you have to be there for all of them.
Is it worth it?
If you're investing your time, love or energy into something or someone and it's not making you happy, it's time to withdraw your effort and put it into…
Easy
If taking the 'easy' route feels uncomfortable; if you still think you have to achieve or accomplish something...
I want
I want the grit and the heart I want the warrior and the warmth
Control vs Love
Ah - control vs love, possibly one of the biggest challenges we face - learning to love, whilst being vulnerable enough to know that we can't control how…
Adulting
I pride myself on being open - open-minded, and open-hearted. It's not easy to live by the principles you tell you clients about: to be completely honest,…
Being here, now
I often find myself in that space between wanting to live in the moment, and wondering if living in the moment is a way for me to avoid life and it's…
Sitting
If you could only sit with it for a minute, This feeling you're avoiding so well It would lose all it's power over you And you would finally know what it…
The void
Big changes require growth. They require loss.
On being human
How often do we censor ourselves for the sake of fitting in?
Let's be honest....
Sometimes, people trigger the hell out of me. Sometimes, when I feel like I'm not getting the authentic person, when I feel like there's a mask up, I take…
The shape of your goodness
The shape of your goodness is not something which can be defined by your choice of actions in only one moment, but by your innate goodness
On leaping
Because every time she took a leap, it seemed she fell. She couldn't remember the last time she leaped and was caught, By strong arms who could hold her…
She looked for more...
So often, we know the answers in our heads, but we can't seem to stop our hearts doing something we know is so illogical; so highly unlikely to ever bring…
It's not good enough to say I love you
It's not good enough to say I love you, but not act like you do. Sometimes the greatest acts of kindness are the ones we show ourselves, or the ones that…
Figuring it all out
You don't have to have it all figured out. Honestly. It's not a thing. Even the people who seem like they have it all figured out, don't. They can't…
Falling apart gracefully
I have pages and pages of poems, pieces of writing...my heart and soul poured onto paper. Sitting gathering digital dust.
Showing up, or not
There are days when even the thought of showing up, of making progress, of doing the work....it just feels too much. When the mountains you have to climb,…
Home is where the heart is
Home is where the heart is. But what if your heart is scattered and lost to you - pieces of it left with people and places along your journey? What then?…
What's mine is yours
What's mine is yours. What's yours is mine. If I'm feeling your pain, it's because I have that same wound. I'm right there with you, moving through it in…
A gulf of faith
And maybe there will always be this gulf of faith, between what seems possible, and what does not.
I am not here to be right
I am not here to be right. I am not here to make my version of the world better than yours.
I do not have to...
I do not have to....
You're not forever
You're not forever. You're a piece of forever. You're the one. Who pierces my heart and breaks it free.
Everyone is dirty
Everyone is dirty. Everyone is sweaty. No one brushes their hair. Ever. It's so refreshing to be around dirty people.
The stories I want to share
I have written so much these last few days, and it all feels too raw still to share. There are stories I want to tell you and people I want to sit down…
LOVE’S DEEPER COMMITMENT
LOVE’S DEEPER COMMITMENT Let’s not commit to a future together. The future is so unknown, and we are so fluid, and tired of pretending that we know.
Do you want to paddle?
"For sure, you're the commander here. You have the more power. He will follow you, but you have to paddle, and paddle hard if you want to catch the wave."
Can you trust me?
Can you trust me? Those four words and the way he looked at me pulled at something that had long since been forgotten, or had simply refused to be…
I am not who you think I am
I am not who you think I am. Do not put your expectations upon me, because they are yours, not mine. I will not ask of you anything, because it is your…
Looks are over-rated
She was old and world-weary, ugly and patched up where she'd been weather beaten, seen too much sun and fought too many waves.
Hard work
I got told last night that I seemed like hard work (to hit on). What is it about someone needing to make an effort to get to know me that I took to be a…
A life well lived
We have such different ideas of what constitutes a life well lived. Do you look for the next thing to make the adrenalin course through your veins to…
She was happy he was happy
And she was happy he was happy, because that's all she ever wanted for him. It just sucked that she had to let him go for him to figure out how amazing he…
Failure
There are moments when I write something and I think, 'Yes! This!'. And moments when I read something and I think, 'Yes! That!'. And there are moments…
Heartfelt
Don't rush to feel what's in your heart. Don't try to analyse it and decipher it or rush through it. Just feel it.
I hope that I can leave you a little better than I found you
I hope that I can leave you a little better than I found you. It's not ego, or the rescuer in me that hopes for this, because I do this for selfish…
NYE 2017
Whilst I'd love to write something profound on the eve of 2018, I find myself thinking, it's just a date: an arbitrary measure of the passing of time…
Freedom and Kindness
Oh, that sweet feeling of freedom when she ducked out of her responsibilities; when she sabotaged herself so she didn't have to bear the weight of others'…
Grateful
Having taken 24hrs to decompress and get over a cold after closing applications on the True You Collective, I am blown away by the incredible people who…
Om Namah Shivaya
Om Namah Shivaya - I bow to Lord Shiva or I bow to my True Self.
Sometimes the life you crave...is the one you're most scared of
Sometimes the life you crave... is the one you're most scared of. Change is uncomfortable. It's also inevitable.
Getting comfortable with the uncomfortable
The uncomfortable is, by definition, not comfortable. It doesn't nourish us or make us feel content. It highlights a flaw, something in us which is…
Doing vs Being
There is so much doing, and my heart just wants to BE. The race against time feels so real - so many places to visit, people to meet, experiences to be…
Different opinions
We may not share the same opinions. I have some pretty out there thoughts on quite a few subjects. I'm OK with that. I'm OK with listening to what you…
I am not defined by your definition of me
I am not defined by your definition of me, nor by my definition of myself. My identity is no fixed thing. It does not have to be chosen nor identified and…
Look after yourself
No need to be a dick about it, but yeah, you need to look after yourself and let everyone else look after themselves. A lot of caring folk get themselves…
I believe in magic
I believe in magic. I believe in the inexplicable joining of souls...energies melding and melting into each other....keeping their uniqueness yet blending…
Life experience
I don't really get the whole "I need to lock myself in a cabin alone in the woods for a month so I can write" thing. I know people do it. I know it can…
Finding your purpose
This being of service thing can be super conflicting. You have a purpose. Maybe you know what it is. Maybe you're still figuring that part out. But you…
Everything is perfect
Everything is perfect. Everything is perfect. Everything is perfect. Even when it's hard. Even when there are tears. Even when it's awesome and super…
The True You Collective
Sometimes, I write lots of words. They flow so easily I barely even notice I'm writing them. And other times, I stare at the screen hoping for inspiration…
And sometimes you just have to sit with the pain
And sometimes you just have to sit with the pain. Let her do her thing and burn herself out. Let the feelings wash over you and cleanse you of the…
Moving Anxiety
I'm not going to lie. Looking at apartments this week in Italy got me all kinds of anxious. I want new energy and good coffee and to be close to my…
Fear and love
I stopped running. I looked into his eyes, held his gaze and saw him flinch. He was scared too.
Getting set for 2018
Getting set for 2018! I love these @dailygreatness planners and used the personal / original one this year. Honestly, the "business" one seems a bit scary…
Intention changes everything
Intention changes everything. People pick up on your energy. Good vibes mean more than fancy words or gestures. Get conscious with your intentions 💖
Conversation and Connection
Here's the thing: I crave real conversation. I want connection. I want to talk about real stuff: not just the surface level bullshit and the "just think…
And just like that, it's all over
And just like that, it's all over. Something breaks inside your heart and you realise, you've chosen.
Control
And in that moment, you realise, you never had control in the first place, and all the effort that went into trying and thinking you did ... was wasted,…
Sometimes it's not black and white
Sometimes it's not black and white. Sometimes it's all kinds of fucked up grey. Sometimes you want to draw a clear line...if only you could figure out…
The journey
These days there are moments when my heart physically aches from trying to open itself up. There are moments when the struggle seems oh-so-very real and…
Being triggered
Today I wrote two messages to people who have really triggered me this week. I wrote to them and thanked them for showing up the way they have in my life,…
There is faith in my detachment
There is faith in my detachment. There is a deeper understanding that tells me that no matter what happens - whether I'm received or not, whether I get…
What's most important?
In this moment, what's most important to you? Where are you holding tension in your body? What needs to happen for you to feel peaceful? What thought can…
What's true?
How about we just say what's true for us in this moment? How about instead of calculating how many times we have or haven't lived up to our definition of…
It's happening now...
It's happening now... That thing you want, the habit or behaviour pattern you want to change, the situation you want to call in...it's already happening.
Relationship
Everything happens in relationship. Every relationship we have, every interaction, big or small, is a gateway into our psyche.
Vulnerability
Is it so scary to reach out and tell someone you're thinking of them? I've been leaning in and leaning out of this a lot recently.
I love you
I love you. I see you. I love all of you. Without judgement. Without expectation.
On Judgement
Peaceful. Frown lines softened. I'm feeling clearer today than I have all the last week. I got myself caught up in a fog of judgement. Judging myself, and…
You are incredible
Never tone yourself down for anyone. You are incredible and beautiful and strong. The people who would reject you on this basis (because you're too much /…
I can't have it all
It can't all be perfect. And. I can't have it all. The stories we tell ourselves define the reality we create for ourselves. They shape the way we see the…
Be you. Be love.
Be you. Be love. Something I'm realising more and more each day, and more and more in every situation that triggers me, whether it's professional or…
Choosing the world we see
By choosing to see with love, instead of fear, we can choose the world we see, and we can choose to feel safe, despite what may be going on in the crazy…
Boundaries
Boundaries are not something you need in order to give freely. In fact, putting boundaries in place in order to feel safe giving something, is the very…
The thing that I admire in you most: confidence
The thing that I admire in you most: confidence. The part of you that stands boldly in front of me, unapologetic and clear on who you are.
Intention
Intention. It's such a loaded word for me today. If my intention is unclear, does that mean I shouldn't say anything? Should I keep my big mouth shut…
Impatience
I have been super impatient . I wanted to get to where I thought my success was. I wanted to find peace in a future version of myself, because I thought…
Love is a whole body experience
Love is a whole body experience. There is no such thing as a love which is conditional. That isn't love. It's control, and fear. If you've been 'loved' in…
Sometimes honest is too honest
Sometimes honest is too honest. Sometimes the truth is too much. Sometimes it's unnecessary.....when it comes to sharing. We sometimes think that in order…
What is a relationship?
Relationship: it's such a loaded word. We covet them. We fear them. We want a them to be 'good', and not 'bad'. We search for them and then run away from…
Why do we worry?
Why do we worry? Why do we think we don't have enough time to accomplish all that we want to? Life is about relationships. Love a little more deeply.…
I got this tattoo when I was in love with a man, who possibly never loved me back
I got this tattoo when I was in love with a man, who possibly never loved me back. I didn't get it 'for' him; that would make me far too vulnerable, but I…
The 'knowing' paradox...
The 'knowing' paradox... Starring at another blank page of a journal, willing some sort of clarity to formulate itself onto the pages, but.... nothing.…
Loving the painful bits
Loving the painful bits. The dark side. The anxiety. The shame. The worry. The guilt. ... Loving even these parts. Not because they're any less than the…
It's time...let's drop the masks and show the world who we really are
I'm so tired of the half truths, the hiding in the shadows, the letting in of certain people but not others, the being one person with one group and…
You don't deserve to be happy....
I know, I know! Hear me out on this one, it's not what you think and will completely shift you're thinking if you let it :-) https://youtu.be/KlMToPWaxhs
Three steps to reducing overwhelm and taking control
Imagine closing your eyes, and opening them to a feeling of calm and serenity Life is not always easy. There's always someone who wants or needs our…
A Manifesto for Living in Truth
I felt inspired to write this as a way of sharing some of my soul, with yours. I share this information not to say that if we don't agree, you're wrong…
Commitment - the unsexiest word in the personal development field
I'm sure you can already guess what this post is going to be about, but if you're still reading that's a positive sign. It means you're open to really…
The one thing most of us miss when setting intentions
I'm going to say this quickly, in the hope that it will sink in more powerfully. If you're setting intentions, wanting to make changes, wishing your life…
My three favourite questions to ask myself at the end of the year
I could probably write pages and pages about reflection and the best coaching questions, but you'd probably get distracted by mulled wine, pretty twinkly…
Don't let anyone tell you the 'best' way
There are lots of people out there who give you advice. I am one of those people. I'm doing it right now. I recognise the irony of this. Nevertheless, I'm…
How to trust someone
So you've been reading all about this vulnerability lark, or you've watched Brene Brown's TED talk, and it seems really logical from the outside, but the…
What is counselling and do you need it?
It was brought to my attention recently that, whilst counselling and therapy has gained a lot of ground over the past few years, many of us still…
If you keep thinking, 'Why do bad things happen to me?', this is why
Ever felt like you're being tested? Like your resolve is just about to crumble if the universe decides to throw just one more thing at you? Do you find…
What to do if you don't know what your purpose in life is
I've been asked a few times recently, what do I do if I don't know what I'm supposed to be doing with my life? I don't know what my purpose is. This can…
Finding the fun
Something magical has happened over the last few weeks. Maybe it's the full moon, maybe it's finding a nice boy to keep me company, or maybe it's just…
What I really think about 'making a fresh start'
On Thursday it was a new moon, a solar eclipse and the 1st September. That's a pretty big deal in astrology terms. I'm all for making a fresh start, but…
Why you're not achieving your goals and what to do about it
There's a weird paradox that's been coming up for my clients recently around finding a balance between acceptance where they are now, and knowing they…
Are you setting a good example?
In my line of work I spend a lot of time studying, thinking about and practicing what makes people happier. If I didn't help make people happier, I…
How to be happy - Six Steps in a Video
I made another video and this one I love! I realised there's a really straight-forward, six step process to being happy and at peace, that you can use…
What if THIS was your moment?
We spend so much time analysing, procrastinating and waiting. What are we waiting for? The stars to align? The seas to part? Why do we feel like we need a…
Are you 'howing' instead of 'allowing'?
If you're feeling stuck, tired, like you're walking up a really steep slope or like what you want seems a really long way away, there's a good chance…
How to reclaim your power in your relationships
Often, we don't even realise we're giving away our power, until we leave a conversation or an interaction feeling flat, deflated, hurt, angry or…
What is a special relationship?
How do we create specialness and separateness in our relationships? When we make people special, either by making them into some kind of idol, or some…
How to live in grace
Grace is a beautiful word. No-one could ever be insulted if it were used to describe them. Grace could be defined as a smoothness and elegance in your way…
How to change your beliefs
Everyone once thought the world was flat. Want to know how we learned the world was round? We challenged that belief. Well, one brave soul challenged that…
How to deal with bullies
I did a video this week, just to be different! I hope this serves you - bullies are no fun for anyone! xx https://youtu.be/4HEytmKa3Ao
The hard way to learn self-worth (and the easier way!)
We get told all the time that crap stuff happens for a reason (as does the good stuff), and that we should look for the lesson. I've said that myself…
It's not your concern
As Emily Maroutian says so well, 'The judgments you hold about me, are all reflections of you. They have nothing to do with me.' It's not your concern.
The #JudgmentDetox Continued - How to deal with bad situations
Choosing not to be judgmental is a pretty tall order, especially when there are so many crappy situations out there in the world today. So how is your…
The Judgment Detox
Last week I attended a workshop with Gabrielle Bernstein all about judgment, or, more specifically, how to not judge. It was so inspiring and I always…
Take away your conditions
I almost wasn't going to write a post today, particularly with it being Valentine's Day. There's already way too many posts out there on love, self-love,…
On guilt and shame
Guilt and shame are two words that make me die a little inside every time I hear them. I pride myself on my honesty, my integrity, and my loving…
Acceptance starts with compassion
I'm going to be super honest and vulnerable now, and hope that those reading this understand that I'm human too. I'm having a really hard time with…
An open letter to my indecisive self
Dear Emma, I know you've always had a problem with making decisions. Ever since you can remember you've been too scared to make a decision, in case it's…
The question you should ALWAYS ask before any conversation
I had a conversation with a family member this weekend. They'll remain nameless to avoid any upset. The conversation started because said family member,…
Having fun for fun's sake
When was the last time you did something fun? Not for anyone else, not because your friend needed a wing-women, or because there was an offer on at your…
How does it feel to be happy?
Weird question right? How does it feel to be happy?! Obviously I was scrapping the barrel of blog topics this week/ But seriously, if everyone experiences…
What I learned from my first Thanksgiving
What I learned from my first thanksgiving? It's actually not about the meal....it's about sharing moments with strangers, friends and family...sharing…
When was the last time you smelled the roses?
I was walking my dog yesterday, which, aside from still trying to figure out how to curb her barking insanely at anything she doesn't recognise (advice in…
What to do when you're scared
When you're scared, you stop living your life fully. Find out what worked for me and find your own peace.
Choosing to put yourself in harm's way
We are constantly choosing - a personal account of choosing to let love in.
You can't love a little
What A Course in Miracles teaches about love and fear, and how you can't love a little, only completely or nothing at all.
How to surrender without giving up
What surrender really means and how to be truly happy.
No-one's perfect
My story of my struggle with an eating disorder, from the perspective of A Course in Miracles.
My journey isn't your journey
My journey isn't your journey. I haven't been through what you've been through. Even if we've shared some of the same experiences, my perspective on them,…
Mixing spirituality with business - the interview
I got interviewed by Antonina Andreeva AKA The Coachinista today - it was so much fun and we talked about everything to do with business, spirituality and…
You are the light
A take on the light and darkness in the world from A Course in Miracles perspective.
Taking responsibility for someone else's happiness
A new take on an old problem. How to stop taking responsibility for others.
Why do bad things happen to good people?
It's so hard to understand why bad things happen to good people. This article gives you four steps to help.
Is routine and consistency a good thing?
What's your routine like? Is it working for you or against you?
Straight to love
Is it possible to skip over fear and anger in bad situations and jump straight to love as A Course in Miracles teaches?
I'm only as good as this moment
If we only have the present moment, how well are we using it?
Trusting in the Universe
Find your faith by trusting in the Universe with this free meditation.
How to trust yourself
Is it a question of trust, or faith in yourself?
How to deal with control issues
Controlling much? If you've got control issues it can feel impossible to relax and destress - here's my number one tip to help you out :-)
Learning to let go
The easiest way to find happiness by learning to let go of fear.
How to learn from experience
A few things have gone wrong for me recently. Here's my honest appraisal of them and my top tips for how to learn from experience.
Creating boundaries with people you love
How to create boundaries with people you love when you feel like you always have to say 'Yes'.
What if you don't know why?
If you're struggling to find the reason why something happened, and you just don't know why right now, read this.
How to let go of something
If you're struggling to let go of something or someone that's stressing you out or causing you anxiety, try these simple and quick tools to help.
What are the Akashic Records?
Discover a powerful way to heal and understand yourself better with the Akashic Records.
Nothing beats experience
Moving from a theoretical learner to an experiential learner, how experience teaches us to face our fear of failure.
Why I started my business in Mercury Retrograde
Why the ill-advised starting of something in Mercury Retrograde might not be such a bad thing!
Manifesting the life of your dreams
Is manifesting the life of your dreams really that easy? I've outlined the major pitfalls and how I do things differently to most to help you out.
How to face your fears with grace and integrity
What yoga taught me about running into your problems vs dealing with them with grace and integrity.
What I learned about myself at #HigherSelfie
How the ego got me, and how I let it go at #HigherSelfie
When people disagree with you
Two surefire tips for when people disagree with your life choices.
How to accept others
If you struggle to get on with or accept others, of if one particular person always knows how to get under your skin, read this.
How trust changes everything
What happens when you learn to trust instead of depending on your own strength.
Motivation doesn't work if you're not ready
What you need AS WELL as motivation, to get you where you want to be.
How to always feel inspired
A surefire way to always feel inspired, no matter what you're doing.
Miracles are a part of my everyday life
What are miracles, and how can you cultivate more of them in your life?
Do you believe in Heaven?
What does being spiritual or religious mean to you?
Trust that there are others as weird as you
When you make yourself vulnerable and trust that there are others out there like you, amazing things happen.
The allure of minimalist living
What is it about minimalist living that is so appealing?
Self-care gone wrong
What happens when you stop listening to your body and ignore your own self-care
I can think myself out of fear
I can think myself out of fear - is there a place for considering a back up plan when following a spiritual calling?
Doubt means don't
When you have doubts about what you should do, don't do anything. Oprah said that. When I heard it, it made me think of all the times I've sat confused…
How to fix broken relationships
As my dad yelled down the phone at me from the other side of Europe, screaming that this was to be the biggest mistake I would ever make, I withdrew from…
How to manifest the life of your dreams
I know, I know, big title right? This week I finished a block of coaching sessions with my business coach. It was an awesome and inspiring journey and as…
Radical Self-Care - New Age Hippy or New & Necessary?
Radical self-care is being thrown about all over the place of late. I see it in Gabby Bernstein's posts, Well & Good's posts, even in my local health food…
Why you should embrace feeling vulnerable (and other lessons in freedom)
Vulnerability. Possibly one of the most scary words ever don't you think? Possibly even scarier than the prospect of spiders that can fly. Feeling…
What if you don't know what feeling better feels like?
It's part of my job to reach out to people who might not necessarily know they need help, and somehow guide them back to themselves. This is no easy feat.…
Perception is a gift
How many times a day do you complain? How many times have you let your negative feelings about someone or something get in your way? Just before I started…
The only way you'll ever feel truly complete and happy
Big statement no? This morning I woke up and before I'd done anything, I stretched, closed my eyes and gave thanks for being so blessed. I then meditated…
What are you here to learn?
Everything's going wrong! Why can't it just be the way I want? How is this fair? Every caught yourself asking yourself those questions or bitching (and…
Take a deep breath - the universe has got you!
What seems like forever ago now, I followed my intuition and quit my career job to follow my coaching path fully and authentically. At the time it felt…
What happens when you stop being afraid
There is an element of me here which is thinking what I'm about to say sounds distinctly woo woo. But in the interests of being honest and authentic with…
A craving for simplicity
Hearing nothing but birds and the wind. Listening to your own breath. Being able to walk your own path. Following my flow in the quiet space of spirit. As…
Who are you, really?
It seems like a simple question, right? Who are you? Most people would answer that question with their name, or their profession. I really don't care too…
Do you know your self-worth?
My notes and social media plan tell me that this blog post is supposed to be about self-worth. I've recently got all clued up on the social media front so…
Moving on from people who hold you back
Weirdly, I always knew that working at bettering yourself invariably is hard before it gets easy. Of course it is. I was running 2 minutes at a time for…
When being 'present' means being 'absent'
Being present is a bit of a misnomer. My trouble is that sometimes my version of being 'present' means being present with my own thoughts. This can get…
The most effective way to find your purpose
When was the last time you woke up and really got excited about the day ahead (and not just because you were on holiday)? When was the last time something…
What to do when you don't know what to do
I'm sat alone, on my bed, my cup of Nespresso cappuccino at the side of me and a blank screen in front. First, I open Facebook...the Google+, then I open…
Why you shouldn't have counselling
Don't get me wrong, as a counsellor, I swear by personal therapy: I have a counsellor and believe everyone can benefit greatly from having one. What I…
5 ways to kill your inner critic
I'm not good enough. Everyone will laugh at me. I'm not as good as the others. People will think I'm stupid All statements of 'fact'. All statements…
The spiritual side to surfing
People who work or play with nature tend to have a very different outlook on life to those who don't. This may seem like a huge generalisation, but I…
The Balian date I didn't know was a date, and how to put yourself first (...or not)
The beach I looked out on to every morning! Ladies and gentlemen, there is a certain je’n sais quoi about writing a blog post from a beach hut in Bali. It…
Think you know better? Phah!
There's something vaguely relaxing about having so little oxygen floating around your brain that you don't care about anything anymore, even making polite…
A permanent reminder that everything is transitory
At the end of last year, I got a new tattoo. It's my second and may very well be my last. Anyone that's ever had the pleasure of sitting on a squeaky PVC…
What's your ritual?
That second, just after the door bangs, when you realise something bad's about to happen. The email you get that makes your stomach turn over and drop to…
Why your future doesn't matter
I wondered what I'd tell him, if I saw him again today. I hope I'd look him in his annoyingly blue eyes, like I really didn't care, and casually tell him…
Mutual bum scratches - the sign of a good Easter?!
She gave a little grunt, swung her bum round and backed up right in to my face. It was just the right height for her. She looked round at me as if to say,…
This is what happens when you do too much...
So, I generally find myself working with people who are high achievers and as a result, push themselves in every direction they possibly can. These are…
Acceptance
Not a long one today, just a little reminder - one which I've been saying to myself a lot recently. Whatever changes you want to make, make them one at a…
Screw to-do lists, life is for living!
Let me ask you a question - are you enjoying life? Are you actually living life, or just letting it pass you by in a whirl of work and goals and check…
What do your worries mean?
Here's a little known fact about me: you know if you work in an office (and not a "green" office where people start having panic attacks if you try to…
Loss - are you deluding yourself?
In a couple of weeks I have an interview for a counselling placement. I'm super scared that I just wrote that, because now, if the nice man who invited me…
Does your story need updating?
This week I will start my official part-time working week, allowing me to actually get some sleep and see more clients on my terms. For this I am super…
Rolling with the punches
Sam and Basil, comfy in Wales! I'm in Wales this weekend. After a super busy week I spent two hours working on the train home and spent my Saturday with…
Overwhelmed by all the things you want to do, or not sure what to do at all? Here's a blueprint for creating the life you want
With thanks to Gavin Terpstra Around December and January time, there are always a tonne of articles and blog posts about how to get organised for the…
I always thought I'd be too materialistic to be a minimalist, until now
With thanks to Fran Flores Dima-ala for this photo. For years I've read Leo Babuta's blog , and even interviewed Colin Wright a few years ago, who travels…
What is mindfulness (a G+ post)?
Christmas stillness
Have an amazing Christmas everyone! Spend time in nature and remember to breathe! If you've lost your joy, try looking at this .
How to choose where to live
View from the Ponte Vicchio - Firenze (Florence) So, for the last week I've been having a wonderful break with one of my very best friends, Erin, in…
How to meet people and make friends (or not)
You know how it goes, you’re sat having brunch with you friend, talking about boys and why you’re still single, despite being ‘hot stuff’, and debating…
5 tips to survive the holidays
We all know that feeling - you know you should be feeling all excited about Christmas, but instead all you can do is count up how little time you have to…
And the winner is...
Good morning! Just a quick one to let you know I have selected the winner of our 'free session' (thanks Chrissy). Jenn* will be having her session this…
Another freebie (and the gift that keeps on giving)
So today is not going to be me spouting forth my...ahem...AMAZING wisdom on how to live a more stress-free and peaceful existence because I have something…
Getting back on the horse
Me (aged about 12) and my pony Bobby, before heading to the village show where we won a big red ribbon! Were you ever told that as a child? 'Oh look,…
Three Steps Forward, Two Steps Back
Off the back of my post last week, when I explained how I'm going to make more time for my 'hippy' side, and reduce my corporate workload to accommodate…
Five ways to tell your friends are keepers
I have read a lot of blogs over the years; specifically ones about leaving a 'cubicle' career and becoming an independent solopreneur. Isn't it odd how…
Why meditating sucks, but you should do it anyway
The Yoga Hall where I stayed in India and practised, 121 with my teacher, twice a day. Silence is a weird concept. Having been meditating on and off for…
Swellings, rashes, pain and grease - day 3 of an Ayurvedic retreat
So, you must be wondering how I'm getting on in my little corner of heaven - the Kerala countryside in India? Truth is, at this moment in time, I've had…
Five things you didn't know about hypnotherapy
Hypnotherapy is what I do. As a bit of background, I never intended to become a hypnotherapist. I mean seriously, who wants to announce that in answer to…
What it's really like the first day of your yoga retreat
Hey! So it's my first official day in India. I arrived yesterday morning and got to the retreat in time for lunch. Before I go in to how great it all is,…
The India trip
Well hey there! I'm working on a few actual posts but my main thing today is to let you know that next weekend I am embarking on a trip that has taken me…
Five things NEVER to do when you have a cold (unless you're a superhuman freakazoid)
So, surprise surprise, I succumbed to the lovely cold that's been going around the whole of London over the last couple of weeks. To be fair,'succumbed'…
How to practise mantra and mindfulness gracefully (& without coming off as a hippy freak in the process)
My mala So, that moment when you hear your phone go (& know who it is cos only that person uses that generic IM app), scream 'Yey' out loud, to yourself,…
When it's appropriate NOT to practise what you preach
So I know I talk about mindfulness a lot on this blog, and rightly so, it's great, but sometimes I get so frustrated with being mindful I need to break…
How to control your emotions (with birthday hilarity)
The guys at my old job sent me a giant flamingo balloon for my birthday! As I sit in silence waiting for the raised voices to stop, I realise that they…
Listening to your intuition
The article below was written by me in 2011. It's been sat in my drafts since then, gathering digital dust because I didn't think it 'went' with my…
Feeling overwhelmed
I wanted to write today about feeling overwhelmed. Why? Because that's how I feel, probably more often than I should, and I wanted to let you know that…
'Oh God help me, I'm so angry / upset and I want to feel better!' - The art of acceptance in modern day stress town
You don't need to be a Buddhist monk to feel better about the bad stuff. This week has been one of complete opposites for me - the good, the bad and the…
How to be 100% confident
I went to one of my oldest friend's wedding this weekend. I had to do a reading. In church. In front of everyone. The last time I went to church was at…
Why you should listen to your body about stress
This weekend I have had the joy of spending the majority of my time in bed. This is the weekend where London hit 27C. Great. As I write this I am lying in…
Why parental time is stressful (and how to deal with anger)
When was the last time you heard someone shout? When was the last time someone shouted at you? I ask these questions because, as with most of the stuff I…
Ten questions to ask yourself to prepare for change
As I'm currently debating a few life changes coming up, I've started asking myself a few important questions. Some of these seem quite straight-forward…
Making a stand (even when it means losing business)
This week I learned a valuable lesson, which I thought I'd learned quite some time ago - the art of saying no. I think the universe sometimes decides I…
Why I rewrote the website & being true to yourself
Oh Hello! How's tricks? I started writing a post this morning but just deleted about 300 words and decided to write this instead. The reason? I was…
How to hustle in a job you hate
Now, you may think I'm writing this out of some need to get off my chest that I hate my job. I actually don't at this point. I actually quite like my job.…
How to excel in a pressurised environment if you crumble under pressure (like me)
I want to share something with you I have never told my boss, and don't often share with anyone in fact - I am not good under pressure. That's a very…
What to do when you don't have a holiday coming up
This may seem like an odd thing to be writing about given I've just spent a wonderful week in Italy, but since I now don't have anything planned until my…
5 Changes you can make at work today that will make your day better
When I say today, since today is actually Sunday, for most people I mean tomorrow, but tomorrow doesn't sound as punchy. Anyway, you can do this tomorrow…
Yoga for REAL people - 6 Min sun salutations for waking up (coffee optional)
Hello Lovely Creators! So I'm writing this having had way too much good coffee ergo you may have to excuse my super excitedness (Wordpress tells me that…
Hope and faith
This morning someone I love told me something I wasn't ready to hear. I almost didn't write today because of it. It knocked my core to the point where I…
Why bigger isn't always better
A lot of the stuff I read about following your dreams gives you the same advice - dream big or go home. I bought in to this for a long time. Or maybe I…
Credit where credit's due
When was the last time you celebrated something you'd accomplished? When I asked myself this question yesterday, the answer didn't surprise me. I couldn't…
Oi You! Go get yourself something pretty today!
Happy Easter lovely people! And what an Easter it is. Now I'm not remotely religious (too much catholic school as a child), but I do love a four-day…
Questions to ask yourself for a life without regrets (aka free therapy)
Well Hello! So it's been a while since I gave away anything from my therapy toolbox so I figured I needed to change that. Not only am I giving away one of…
How to make friends like a New Yorker (from the friend of one)
I was sat in my Italian class, a week after arriving in Italy to prove my worth to my parents in my new Italian Liaison role. I moved from the UK to Italy…
Ten things I wouldn't change, even if I could
This week has been a bit of a nightmare. When I emailed my director my daily update, I used the term 'challenge' instead of nightmare, but the result was…
Facing your fears (and other cliches)
This week, as you may know if you follow me on Twitter , I finally booked my flights to India. This trip has been five years in the making . Ever since I…
Being limited by my own world view
It occurred to me this morning that, over the past few months, I've managed to put myself back in to a little bit of a box. What I mean by this is that I…
Life isn't perfect - get your priorities straight
Life isn't perfect. You don't always get what you want. Karma's a bitch - because it travels with you through lives, meaning even if you act like a…
The real test of inner confidence
Well hi there! So it's been a really hectic couple of months. Firstly, my website got taken down because it got hacked by malware, and due to my VERY…
How hypnotherapy can reduce stress (free audio!)
A free audio download to help combat stress instantly using hypnotherapy.
Developing a Diet to Deal with Panic Disorder
A guest post by Ryan Rivera on how simple dietary changes can help you feel calmer and ease panic.
Finding Happiness - take it by degrees
Finding happiness - one degree at a time
Rain, rain go away, come again another day!
What with all the rain and colds being spread around, it's easy to forget to be grateful sometimes.
Do you really need passion?
Is finding your passion really that important? Do we really need passion?
The Jubilee and being yourself
Are you at the Jubilee? I live about 20m from the Thames in London but I'm actually spending this rainy afternoon in our flat, writing, playing, and…
How do you know what's right?
How to figure out what's right or wrong in your life and using positive thinking to learn from the mistakes without torturing yourself.
Using Yoga for Relaxation, not weight loss and fitness
Using Yoga for Relaxation, not weight loss and fitness
Irritability & Anger - What it means & how to manage it
Is irritability a bit of an issue for you? Here I look at what it could mean and how to manage it.
Pushing for personal growth - how do you do it without having a mental breakdown?
Pushing yourself for personal growth - how do you do it without having a mental breakdown?
How I know you're not reaching your potential
Have you ever been told you’ve got so much potential? Maybe you haven’t – if so, I’m sorry. Most people have been told at some point or another that they…
How to get off your ass and in to your skinny jeans (or other hypothetical ‘good place’)
So you know where you want to be, you’re just lacking the ‘get up and go’ to get there? Oh how I know that feeling! Making it a habit is something I think…
How to find options when there aren’t any
I sat down last night and thought about all the things that the people who come to this site stress about the most, since that's what this site is all…
How to recognise and neutralise panic
Ever get that feeling of sheer panic come over you and not really understand at what point it all got so stressful? As many of you know, last year I moved…
Stress / Confidence Trigger Worksheet
A useful download and print tool to assess confidence and stress triggers to deal with them better.
Why you're missing out on life (and how to change that)
So, I was talking to Ash over at The Middle Finger Projec t recently and she reminded me of something - Life's all about the buzz . Whilst we all have…
How to make more time
I wrote a list once of the stuff I needed to get done in a day...it scared me quite a lot. I have no doubt at all that if you're reading this now, you've…
Take charge of your emotions with mindfulness
I go on about mindfulness a lot on this blog. I firmly believe that mindfulness is the first and hugely important step to having a focused and happy life.…
Yoga Mini Series for Stress Relief - Yoga Nidra
You are not just a drop in the ocean, you are the mighty ocean in the drop. ~Rumi So this is the last in the four-part mini series on yoga for stress…
No (wo)man is an island
Sometimes things don't come easy. Sometimes life's hard . In those times, inspiration people rally together and pick each other up. Tell their war stories…
The use of focus to calm the mind
Drishti (focus) is something people often forget about. Not just in yoga, but in life generally. Anyone who's ever done board sports knows that where you…
Yoga Mini Series for Stress Relief - Back bending
This is the third of a four part mini series on yoga for stress, check out the rest by visiting the resources page for subscribers. This again is another…
Why I want to sleep on a 1" mattress for a month...and pay for the privilege!
So back in January I posted my 2012 predictions , not because I particularly believe in New Year Resolutions, but because I wanted to make stuff happen…
Yoga Mini Series for Stress Relief - Nadi Shodhana
Anulomvilom Pranayama (Alternate Nostril Breathing) – A form of Nadi Shodhana This is the second in a four part mini series on yoga for stress, check out…
Yoga for medical students
This week I thought I'd bring you a bit of news from the yoga world. I try to keep up to date with stuff but there's so many amazing things going on…
Yoga Mini Series for Stress Relief - Yogic Breathing
Is the pace of modern day living getting you stressed? You know that really annoying piece of advice about counting to ten? There's something in that…
6 sure fire ways to de-stress and get happy
Stressed? Moody? Want to de-stress and be happy? You're reading the right stuff dear creator! This is a straightforward approach to de-stressing and…
Inspirational messages to print and keep
The best books and audio for living life without regrets (with the help of yoga & psychology)
I'm going to list below some of the books and audio I think might help you on your journey. Straight up - some of these are affiliate links meaning if you…
The Yoga Experiment Part 2 - Yoga Nidra as a way to de-stress or enlightenment?
So It's been a few weeks since I posted my last 'Yoga Experiment' update about how I was getting on doing 15 minutes Yoga Nidra every day. I've now…
What we can learn from inspiration
Last weekend I spent the weekend in Wales with my Nana and my parents to celebrate her 90th Birthday.90. Can you imagine? She was born in the twenties.…
MASSIVE Action - Are you wasting your time?
I've done another vlog (yey!). No really, I don't much care for them myself but I know you all like to see who's talking to you so I've chatted on for a…
The Curious Person's Guide to Mindfulness
I am loving my daily yogasana and yoga nidra routine at the moment and would totally recommend it in a second, but I also know that it doesn't appeal to…
Think you should be doing something else?
Is there something you wish you could do, or be, or go see...but you can't because of whatever reason? Whenever you're doing something which isn't really…
The Yoga Experiment Part 1
For the past week and a half I have been diligently listening to a Yoga Nidra audio by Swami Muktibodhanana Saraswati and promised last week to continue…
The Yoga Experiment
During my week in Devon, I have to say, I’ve been pretty lazy! My days have consisted of yoga, eating, reading and lazing in the hotub, which has been…
Why bother?
One thing I seem to be asked more and more is how do I stay motivated. Or better yet, how do I even get motivated to do something. At this point I’d like…
Why it's OK to change your mind
I've been reading a lot recently about the best ways to keep you lovely people happy (great tips here ) and how to get more people to know about this…
When it's OK to be scared (and how to figure out if it's right to be cautious)
I spend a lot of time writing on here about how most of the time we get in our own way and how we need to push ourselves, take risks and move forward;…
Hug it out or stiff upper lip? What's your emotional IQ?
A few of my colleagues and I were talking yesterday and stumbled upon an interesting topic (well, it was to us anyway!), which I thought I'd share with…
2012 Predictions and plans...join the revolution!
At this time of year it's always customary to take stock and make plans. Personally, I hate conforming to the stereo-type of joining a gym on January 1st,…
Fed up of being pigeon-holed?
I know that you will have been inundated with ‘It’s Christmas!’ messages over the past week or so and I do genuinely hope everyone has at least one fond…
How to be fearless without being reckless
I was thinking this afternoon about what might hold someone back from doing something big and scary and the only thing I could come up with was this... A…
Give yourself some down-time
Last weekend I went away for the weekend to Derbyshire and stayed in a lovely little log cabin in the countryside. We arrived at about 10pm, got out of…
What's your fail-safe Funk-fixer?
It occurred to me at the end of a long week this week that I was actually still happy. You might detect a hint of surprise there, and you’d be right. …
Is your mind wasting your time?
Today’s post is all about time and finding enough of it. It seems that in today’s busy world, we have about 10 different roles we have to fit in to on a…
You don't have to be superhuman all the time...it's OK to be OK...
I got told this week that I needed to ‘practise what I preach’ more. Trouble is, it’s not always that easy is it? I suppose the question then becomes,…
Are you playing it safe?
Are you living the dream or playing it safe? Isn't it a good idea to sometimes hedge your bets? I subscribe to quite a few blogs. I get lovely feel-good…
A change is as good as a rest.
I think there are two types of people - those who love technology, and those who loathe it / don't get it / don't understand it. I am one of the former…
What to make of an emotional rollercoaster
Earlier this week I tweeted this: When keeping positive is a challenge, just move one shade of emotion closer to it. Next day, one more... :-) Want to…
Happiness and success
Hello, my name’s Emma, and I’m addicted to learning. This might sound like a strange thing to be addicted to, but the mind is a strange thing, and in…
Therapy - the taboo and the reality
I wanted to write this week about therapy - going to therapy and talking about it . Being in training and in my field of work, it's really important to…
On making people feel comfortable...
Have you ever wondered over those people you meet, every once in a while, who for some inexplicable reason, you end up telling all your secrets to,…
3 Things to learn from yoga (without even attempting a downward dog!)
“Don’t seek, don’t search, don’t ask, don’t knock, don’t demand – relax. If you relax, it comes. If you relax, it is there. If you relax, you start…
On finding your dream
In a lot of my posts I talk about following your dream; focusing your thoughts on what you want and going for it. It struck me there can be a massive…
When was the last time you leaped?
This is the story of how my dad conquered his fear. I am currently on holiday with my parents and my brother. Yes it might be a strange thing for a…
What's your personal mission statement?
This post is all about making decisions from a principle centred place. As you may know, I'm in the process of reading 'The 7 Habits of Highly Effective…
Recognising and releasing resistance
I sat, staring in the mirror, amazed at what I had discovered. I was my own worst enemy. I was the one holding me back. For some unknown reason, my…
Getting Motivated - Making it a Habit
OK, so tell me this - why am I finding it so darn hard to find time to do something I love at the moment? Yoga is my passion. It's up there with…
How to deal with Negativity in 3 Steps
It's all very well when things are going great to get all giddy and excited. It's human nature. Positivity breeds more positivity. But what happens if…
The thing about family...
This weekend I’ve gone back to my childhood home in North Wales to spend the weekend with my parents. My nana has also made the journey from Liverpool at…
Cloaks, stars, moons and hippy chicks
OK, so over the past few months I've talked alot about positive thinking and confidence, but I thought this week I'd actually tell you about what I…
Giving yourself permission
So this week I was going to talk about your ability to say no to people, mainly at work, and how that actually ends up benefiting you and your boss…
Playing to your strengths
I was recently given a copy of Strengthsfinder 2.0 by Tom Rath. For those of you who might not of heard of this book before, it's basically a sort of…
How to turn your biggest weakness into your biggest strength
We’ve probably all been asked at some stage in our lives, ‘What’s your biggest weakness?’ and ‘What’s your biggest strength?’. They seem to be standard…
Do you secretly love it?
Secretly love what? I hear you ask. Well, I’m so glad you asked. This is the article I spoke about a week or so (I forget) ago – the one about secondary…
The biggest time waster in your life
Want to know what the single biggest time waster in your life is (probably)? It is…wait for it… THINKING . Or rather over-thinking. As you can see from…
Why failing to prepare can be the best thing you can do
It’s the age-old adage isn’t it? ‘Failing to prepare is preparing to fail’. Quite frankly, I think this saying, instilled into me from a young age, is…
What's holding you back?
I recently went through some dramatic life changes, spurred on by seemingly overnight life-altering decisions, taken by me, and although it seemed like…
Are you who you say you are?
Are you being genuine? Or are you acting out a part; being who you think people want you to be? This is a question I've found myself asking a lot…
How much time does it take to change your life?
So, this law of attraction business - how long do you have to be 'thinking positively' about a situation before it becomes manifest? My answer, from my…
Why chickens are way more clever than you think
Yesterday I was in Northampton, on a small farm with some sheep, goats chickens etc. Spending some quality time with my boyfriend and his family. In the…
How badly do you want it?
There is a common misconception that if you want something really badly, you have to work super duper hard to get it. I'd like to challenge this idea. …
How does distant healing work?
Although it's very natural to me, I completely understand why people may have questions and reservations regarding distant healing. Although it's an…
The power of the breath
I have been asked by many people, both friends and potential friends (there are no strangers, as we are all intrinsically connected on some level even…
An introduction to Reiki
Reiki (pronounced ray-kee) is a unique method of working with this source energy for healing. It was established in Japan in the 1800s by a gentleman…
A Few of My Favourite Books
I have read a lot of spiritual, self-help, self-development, professional development and yoga books over the years and will continue to find great new…
10 Ways to feel better
This post is about yoga yogic ways to make you feel better and is taken from 'Yoga and Kriya: A Systematic Course in the Ancient Tantric Techniques' by…